1. Be prepared to date outside of your expectations – It’s not wise to judge a person by their picture. The main criteria for men when I worked for a matchmaker’s was how a woman looked, closely followed by their weight. Of course we all want to date someone we find attractive, however this is a subjective decision. A picture can be misleading and we’ve probably dated attractive people who simply didn’t do it for us. Women all want to date someone taller than them. Again, challenge your assumptions. if the most perfect man walks through the door and he’s 5.6ft, get to know who he is.
2. Pre-date phone call (date). Countless times my clients have had a conversation on the phone before meeting, although I advise against this. I appreciate it’s tempting. You want to see if it’s worth meeting, if they are interesting, if there are any red flags. Relationships are not formed over the phone or via emails, because you could meet someone you’ve been chatting to for ages and find you are not attracted to them. Then you’ve wasted all that time. have a few texts to organise a time and date, then meet them.
3. Make an effort. If you are serious about wanting to meet someone, think about your contact. be warm but not over the top in texts. When you get to meeting, most women will make an effort, buy a dress, have done their hair. The idea is to put your best self forward. We all judged and if someone turns up with greasy hair, or a rumpled shirt your date may judged you and you have wasted your opportunity.
4. Be prepared for disappointment. Finding someone to love and who loves you can be really tough. We want to feel a connection, have fun and enjoy ourselves. However, sometimes the reality is that we feel bored, tired, frustrated or not attracted to our dates. it’s not their fault, they are simply not what we are looking for. Check in with yourself. Are your expectations realistic, are you being open enough, are you being too open. The main objective is not to have tick lists, but to have fun and relax and see what happens.
5. Don’t give up. Just because you haven’t met the right person yet doesn’t mean you won’t. Use your friends for support, get feedback on your profiles. Get professional help if its useful. Work on yourself and have fun.